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Menopause Don’t Shout!

When I published my post ‘Menopause We Need To Talk’ I ended it with ‘I’ll keep you posted’. Here we are SEVEN MONTHS later (how did that happen?) and an update is ridiculously overdue.

After a visit to my GP, I decided to give myself until the end of the year (that was 2019). I’d suffer in silence and hope ‘things’ would go away – but they didn’t. Instead, work ramped up in the new year and January was a busy month with a major event and February was the excitement of a ‘hens do’ and plans for a wedding. And then COVID-19 happened and the wedding didn’t. The stress got real and my perimenopause symptoms were off-the-scale. I didn’t know myself and hot flushes turned into night sweats and no kidding, it was just like this.

I was waking up at least seven times a night with a feeling I was about to combust; I couldn’t get myself to work without breaking out in an un-lady-like sweat. The little desk fan was on constantly even though the air-conditioning was set at an unnecessary cold temperature and I was on the verge of either tears, rage or anger and sometimes all three.

My ill-informed knowledge of HRT was something along the lines of ‘oh! that’s something women-of-a-certain-age take to keep themselves young’, not paying any attention at all to the symptoms it helps to alleviate. In anticipation of becoming a woman-of-a-certain-age, I’d decided to age as nature had intended, after all, age is something to celebrate, especially when people around us are dying way before their time.

When the obvious signs of my perimenopause kicked in I had made up my mind to go down the natural as possible treatment avenue; this meant natural supplements, trying meditation, exercise and good diet.

I soon realised that this mindset was rather like approaching childbirth with an announcement to the world that you are going to have a natural birth, and your ‘birthing plan’ (is this still a thing?) consists of whale music, zero drugs, dimmed lights a pool with floating candles. But the reality is, by the time you’re through, you’ve told everyone in the room to ef-off, you’re so high and numb from all the drugs, you have an out of body experience believing you’re giving birth to George Clooney’s love child! (this was not me!) The disappointment you feel when your plan doesn’t, well, go to plan, is enormous and the sense of failure is all-consuming.

Imagine my disappointment then, when by the end of March absolutely nothing I tried was helping me feel human and come mid-April I was on my first round of HRT. Within two weeks I was feeling more myself once again and Chief was secretly sending thanks to the hormone gods. It didn’t stop me from feeling like I’d failed though – sometimes it isn’t helpful to have a plan and it’s best to just go with the flow and what’s right for you at the time. I’ve learned that now.

By Waking the Wombat

Life - part two; Australia. Having spent the first 39 years of my life in England, with two adult children who don't need me so much, a workaholic husband and a head full of stuff waiting to be unleashed, Waking the Wombat is my place to share life's experiences with you.

8 replies on “Menopause Don’t Shout!”

Oh, Lucy, I feel for you and don’t be disappointed because you needed a little help. When I spoke to my doctor about all those feelings and symptoms, he said “Nope, this couldn’t possibly be menopause – you’re too young. Come back and see me when you’re older!” But by then, I had ‘managed’ to get through the brunt of it all and sailed into calm waters without being arrested for any major crime. (I do remember imagining 100+ ways to kill anyone who ate with their mouth open within sixty feet of me. How I managed to reign in those impulses still amazes me.)

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Follow Liz Earle Wellbeing Lucy , because of her podcasts and interviews with some very experienced Menopause Doctors – ive been truly enlightened ! She’s amazing and has a brilliant download called’ The Truth about HRT’. Its a natural thing these days – made with wild yams ! Women need Oestrogen ! Our bones will thank us and sanity is saved . Lots of love X


Ah, Lucy, I feel your hot flushes! 🥵 Good for you that you’ve decided to find what helps you & if that’s HRT, then you’re wise to include it in your plan for dealing with the big M.
I’ll listen out for those podcasts too, it’s so important to find good information. I’ve been asking Neurologists whether going through the menopause will affect the MS. As ever, there’s conflicting opinions! Still, at least it’s keeping my brain active trying to understand it all ☺️ Kx


One of the issues I find very frustrating is that I don’t know what stage of the menopause I am actually at. My doctor won’t give me a blood test (which I thought would give me some sort of an idea). Am I half way or coming to the end? How do I know how long I should be taking HRT for? I know everyone is different but it’d definitely be helpful to have some sort of guidance. Does anyone have any suggestions as to ways of finding out?


Sorry for taking so long to respond to your message. I can’t answer your questions directly but you could visit some websites that offer that kind of support in women’s health. I also find Dr Fiona Lovely and her podcast Not Your Mother’s Menopause extremely helpful and informative – good luck!


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